Have you spoken to your ageing loved ones about their plans? When is it time to talk about aged care? How can you start the conversation? What do you need to talk about? Find out the answers here.
Don’t leave it too late to have an honest conversation about aged care options with your loved ones.
Research from McCrindle shows that three in 10 Australians have been involved in organising care for a parent, but often are forced to make decisions quickly and with limited information. Most often the process begins as a result of sudden illness or injury, and consequently, two in five people aren’t able to spend more than a month exploring care options.
This isn’t helped by the fact that three in four older Australians haven’t taken any steps to ensure they’ll receive the kind of care they want. The onus is on all of us to start the conversation early and make sure all voices are heard, so there are no unpleasant surprises down the line.
In this article, we’ll take a look at how to have a conversation about aged care with your loved ones.
The sooner, the better. As mentioned above, aged care conversations are too often instigated by sudden health events. Consequently, Australians are having to make decisions on behalf of their parents, under a lot of pressure and in limited time.
Of the people who have organised care for a parent, 77 per cent found the process stressful, 22 per cent didn’t feel informed about the options available and 43 per cent felt pressured throughout the decision-making process. As a result, one in four would now change their decision if they could.
Taking the time to have an honest, open discussion about the needs and expectations of your loved one’s care later in life, helps to prepare everyone involved and ensure decisions are made with clarity and respect to the whole family’s feelings.
So don’t wait until the talk seems “necessary” – start communicating about aged care as soon as possible.
All this said we can’t deny that talking about aged care can be scary for both you and your loved ones. These conversations often represent a shift in the dynamic of a relationship with a parent or older relative, which can feel confronting. Likewise, they often revolve around the topic of losing independence, which many people may be uncomfortable thinking about.
Naturally, then, it’s hard to get the conversation started. However, once you’ve all talked and developed a plan, everyone can move forward with confidence, no matter what the future may bring.
If you need help broaching the topic with your ageing relative, take some time to put yourself in their shoes. How would they like to have the conversation? They’ll probably want to feel they are as in-control as possible. So, when planning to start the conversation, think about:
Note that the conversation may need to be tackled in parts, to avoid overwhelming anyone. It’s a good idea to set smaller goals for each part of the conversation and be prepared to put a pause on things if anyone needs to stop.
When you’ve planted the seed, it may help to sit down with Invest Blue’s Aged Care Conversations Worksheet. The Worksheet provides an outline for the different aspects you’ll need to cover, some leading questions to shape the conversation and tips to keep in mind when discussing.
Aged care is a larger topic than it might seem at first. Since it concerns the overall living situation of your loved one, as well as potential unknowns for the future, there’s a lot to be discussed. Subjects include:
These conversations take time, and can’t always happen without help. If you or your loved ones have any uncertainty around care later in life, it helps to speak to a financial planner. At times when emotions run high, the financial planners at Invest Blue can review your options and provide the unity needed to make decisions with clarity and confidence.
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